How do you set boundaries when someone you’re too involved with ignores you?

Rule number one: Do not question yourself. If you feel that someone is ignoring you, approach them moderately. Let them know that what they are doing is causing you to feel uncomfortable, or find out what the situation is to cause the person to be non-responsive. Call them on it directly.

 

Rule number two: Keep in mind that it is your RIGHT and your DUTY to protect yourself from offenses of commission AND offenses of lapse. It is your right to be valued at all times. It is not right for anyone to nullify you by putting down your calls, or responding to you occasionally. If this is happening to you, recognize it and put up a boundary for yourself and the other party letting them know that such conduct is not adequate.

 

Rule number three: When someone overlooks you, they are not meeting your needs. You have the need to be appreciated, accepted and to be treasured. Whenever someone plays this game, they are denying you the right to get your needs met, not matter how much you've done for them.

 

Rue number four: You know that the opposite of love is not hate; it's indifference. When someone doesn't take the time to respond to you, even if just to say, "I'm sorry, I'm busy right now. Will get back with you in a few days," it sends a silent message to you. It's important that you protect yourself from such messages. You don't merit to be unnoticed. How hard is it to send a text?

 

To sum it all up, fill your life with people who understand and value high-integrity in relationships. No matter who it is that uses the silent behavior on you, set limits and walk away if necessary. You are too precious to overlook.

 

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